Each week I will be answering a question asked to me by one of my readers. For this week it’s all about vanilla sex. If you have a question you would like me to answer then please contact me here and keep your eye out for my upcoming Q & A. The question asked this week was:
How can I blow my boyfriend’s mind in the bedroom, whilst still having vanilla sex?
There are so many things you can do to up the bedroom spice without having to do anything kinky. The word vanilla may give the impression of something boring but it really doesn’t have to be!
Here’s a list of things I would recommend to those wanting to have exciting vanilla sex.
⦁ Purchase some lingerie. Babydolls and chemises are both extremely sexy without being too revealing.
⦁ Change the scenery. So if you are always having sex in the bedroom, try doing it somewhere new. Whether it’s on the sofa, in the shower or in the kitchen.
⦁ New positions. Browse through a copy of the Kamasutra together, there are plenty of online guides. See if there are any positions you haven’t tried before and you both like the look of.
⦁ Erotic massage. Really get to know your partner’s body with an erotic massage incorporated into your foreplay. I suggest Massage candles which will make the experience extra special.
⦁ Buy some lube. I hear a lot of people say they don’t use any lube in the bedroom. It really does up the pleasure for both men and women. Once you’ve tried it, you wouldn’t go without again.
⦁ Take control. Men love a woman to know what she wants, especially if what she wants is him. Take the lead so he knows you’re getting all the pleasure from him that you want.
⦁ Dirty talk. This can be terrifying if you’re new to it so start off slow. A little ‘oh fuck’ here and a little ‘that feels so good’ there. The encouragement will not only totally turn him on, it will show him what things you really do love him doing.
⦁ Experience his body. Don’t just focus on kissing his lips and then jump straight to getting his penis out. Instead, touch him all over, kiss him all over, lick him all over. Basically just appreciate every bit of his body.
⦁ Communicate. Have a discussion with him about what each of your fantasies are. Be honest and open with each other. Even if he says something you’re not into doing, you can try to adjust it to something you would be comfortable with. He’s not going to say no.
⦁ Self-pleasure. What man doesn’t love to watch a girl getting herself off? Don’t be shy about it, if you want to have a bit of a self-rub during foreplay or sex, then go for it!
I hope these tips help and I can’t wait to answer some more questions! Also, don’t forget if you do have any questions, just ask them here.
If you liked this post then check out my post on Why Vanilla Sex Is Better Than You Realize!