Most people experienced in BDSM know what their hard and soft limits are. And they know the limits of their partner. But if someone’s new to BDSM or are vanilla, they aren’t likely to have acknowledged their limits. However, it’s important to know what yours and your partner’s limits are.
Discovering that I was an autoandrophilia took time. I knew my desires were different to the ‘standard’ but there really wasn’t much information on it available online. Why did I fantasize about having a male body? Shouldn’t I be fantasizing about having sex with a man, not actually being a